Happiness, Pleasure & The Buddha

An excerpt from my dissertation on mindfulness and how it actually appears in psychotherapy from the perspective of mental health professionals. It is common for people to chase positive experiences, feelings and sensations believing that they are on the path to happiness or have found happiness. It is not uncommon for people to be consumed by planning for or working toward the next thrilling pleasure (Goldstein, 2013). The problem is that sense pleasures are momentary and fleeting. The elusiveness andRead more

How to Set Healthy Boundaries

“I encourage people to remember that “No” is a complete sentence.” ~ Gavin de Becker 1. Identify current boundary crossers The first step in setting healthy boundaries is identifying who it is that is the boundary crosser. How does this person make you feel? Most likely, telling this person how you feel will get you no where. They may even get satisfaction from hearing your plea. Remember, it is not uncommon for boundary crossers to be very purposeful in their boundaryRead more

How to Avoid Burning Out

“A good rest is half the work.” ~Buddhist Proverb 1. Remember why you started What has inspired you to be on the path you are on? Anytime we forget our roots or the purpose for why we are in our current situation, it is easy to see our challenges only as difficulties. How many challenges have you overcome to get where you are? I am sure there are too many to count. It might be helpful to write down or say outRead more

On Codependent Relationships

“A lot of the time codependency looks like intense love, but “needing” another person often stems from fear, not love.” ~Jennifer Kass 1. You feel like you will die without the other person The first time I ever experienced what I would call true love, I began to think about my mortality more than ever. I would think about the fact that my time with my partner is not infinite. I would actually get sad thinking about it. It is importantRead more

How to Deal with Negative People

“You cannot have a positive life and a negative mind.” ~Joyce Meyer 1. Recognize and accept their toxicity First and foremost, it is important to identify and accept that someone we know is a negative person. This can be difficult, especially when the person is someone we care about. Either way, we must be careful not to allow their negativity to transfer onto us. We need to accept that negativity is toxic and will only breed more negativity. It is especially important to avoid complainers. PeopleRead more

3 Signs It’s Time For Change

“How vain it is to sit down to write when you have not stood up to live.”~ Henry David Thoreau” 1. You are often jealous of others If you have a tendency to look at others with envy it may be time to make a change. Harold Coffin said, “Envy is the art of counting the other fellow’s blessings instead of your own.” Instead of spending your time comparing yourself to someone else, spend time working on making your own circumstances better. WeRead more

Promote Your Blog Here

Hi Everyone, I want to create a directory for my subscribers to connect with each other. If you would like to share your blog, please leave a brief description about what readers might find if they visit your site. Hopefully this will create some positive synergy for our blogging community. Don’t forget to reblog this post so we can get more people involved! Have suggestions, questions or submissions? Click here!Read more

How to Let Go of Yesterday

“There’s an important difference between giving up and letting go.” ~Jessica Hatchigan 1. Recognize that we have a choice Whenever we get stuck in the past, most likely it is because we are being bombarded by intrusive thoughts. These intrusions appear as regret, anger, hatred, resentment or sadness. When we get caught by this web of negativity, it is extremely difficult to remember that we have a choice. We can choose to break free from this cycle by realizing that each thought has an energetic value. NegativeRead more

How to Help a Suffering Partner

“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” ~Dalai Lama 1. Fight the urge to run away or shut down Let’s face it, it is in our nature to seek pleasure and avoid pain. Seeing a loved one suffer is one of the most heart wrenching experiences. If you feel like running away or giving up, you are not alone. But remember, it is not uncommon for a loved oneRead more