Finding Life in the Shadow of a Narcissist

By Dr. Perry, PhD “Happiness must be grown in one’s own garden.” ~Mary Engelbreit Life is complicated. One day we open our eyes and find ourselves in a life that we have no idea how we entered into willingly. We have painted ourselves into the proverbial corner with no window or door for escape. This is how many people describe feeling when they come to realize that their life partner is a narcissist. Perhaps you have a family and co-ownRead more

How to Spot Psychological Manipulators

By Dr. Perry, PhD “You learn a lot about people when they don’t get what they want.” ~Anonymous Like the waves that forcefully crash on the shore and later gracefully retreat, there is an ebb and flow to life. The seasons change and the flowers bloom, only to later wilt. We all give and take in our daily lives. Our interactions with one another are overall based on a healthy exchange of emotions, ideas and positive social interactions. There areRead more

Exposing the Narcissistic Parent

By Dr. Perry, PhD “Having a narcissistic parent is like living life as a human doormat.” ~ Anonymous Children come into the world much like new-born ducklings ready to imprint on their caretakers. They are innocent blank slates waiting to learn the ways of the world. Like a bud on the vine, with proper care, children blossom and grow to be mentally and physically healthy adults. Unfortunately, we don’t get to choose our parents. While some of us end upRead more

Identifying Narcissistic Triangulation

By Dr. Perry, PhD What does it take to have a healthy relationship? Whether it is in love, friendship, work relationships or family relationships, they all need mutual respect in order to thrive. One of the reasons narcissists are not able to have healthy relationships is because they do not respect people. To the narcissist, people exist solely for their benefit. They need a steady and constant supply of attention, approval, admiration, adoration and worship to feel alive and toRead more

How to Identify Passive-Aggressive Behavior

By Dr. Perry, PhD “Let’s meet at noon at the gym – oh wait, you probably don’t know where that is.” ~ Anonymous We all have that friend, co-worker or family member who has a special way of saying seemingly harmless words that makes us feel like we have been slapped across the face with a rose only to later find we have been embedded with thorns. These same individuals have the habit of doing or purposely not doing somethingRead more

The Power of Positive Visualization

By Dr. Perry, PhD “Logic will get you from A to B, imagination will take you everywhere.” ~Albert Einstein In my professional life, I recommend to my patients that they practice a bit of time travel. I ask them to imagine traveling into the future and to make positive visualizations about the time to come. They can imagine whatever they wish, but it must be positive. By focusing  our minds on positivity, we can learn to quiet the internal negativeRead more

How to Assess the Quality of Your Life

By Dr. Perry, PhD “It is not death that a man should fear, but he should fear never beginning to live.” ~Marcus Aurelius I am at a place in my life where I am able to slow down and momentarily pause. After a year and a half, I have completed my dissertation and am less than a month away from officially becoming a doctor of clinical psychology. Every now and then it is important to stop to appreciate and reflectRead more

3 Steps to Create a Self-Care Plan

By Dr. Perry, PhD Audio version | Click here “To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.” ~Oscar Wilde In one way or another we are all caretakers. Care taking can be found in all aspects of life. Some of us are care takers in the professional sense and work in medical, mental health or other professions where the main responsibility is that of a caretaker. Others are caretakers in their everyday lives as parents or in other familial capacities.Read more

How to Spot an Emotional Bully 

By Dr. Perry, PhD “Sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me.” ~Anonymous I wish the above quote was true. Unless we are a machine or lack human emotions, words and actions have a profound effect on the way we feel about ourselves and the world around us. In our current society we have become hyper-aware and sensitive to bullying. We are quick to notice this taboo behavior in others and readily condemn it. It is possibleRead more

How to Have Healthy Alone Time

By Dr. Perry, PhD Audio version | Click here “Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” ~ Aristotle When was the last time you had a day to yourself? If you are like most people it was probably a while ago. We live in a world where we are constantly bombarded by external stimuli. All of the noise has caused many of us to lose touch with our inner voice. Whether it is five minutes or an hour, havingRead more