When You Hate Your Job

By Dr. Perry, PhD

“It’s not that I’m so smart, it’s that I stay with problems longer.” ~Albert Einstein

1. Have realistic expectations
No matter what job you have, it is not worth dying over. When we push ourselves beyond breaking point, day after day, we will eventually burn out. We need to keep realistic expectations of ourselves. It is especially important for us to find satisfaction in knowing we did our best. When we fixate on performance (often the norm), we tend to focus on how good or bad things are going. By shifting our attention to the satisfaction we get from doing our best, we can see our victories more clearly. If we don’t make this shift, we will get stuck looking at only our losses. Thinking of past victories reminds us, we have overcome many obstacles just to get where we are now.

2. Develop your skills
Instead of approaching your job as a prisoner in servitude, think of ways you can increase your skills, especially in areas that could help you if you decide to change jobs. We tend to be happiest when we are trying to get better at something. Every job has the potential to teach us valuable lessons; even if the lesson is to breathe, and find comfort in our discomfort. The lesson might even be, how to work with extremely negative people.

3. Don’t just quit
Even if you are planning to quit, don’t do it impulsively! It is important to maintain your composure and professionalism. We always need to be strategic when making career changes. Consider your options. Seek counsel from someone you trust. If you feel like you might quit impulsively, it is time to use a vacation day or even call in sick. The short-term consequence of calling in sick (occasionally) is better than any repercussions from impulsively quitting.

4. Put on your IronMan or IronWoman suit
Before you walk into work, remind yourself, I cannot expect people to be nice. People stress, have bad days and then mindlessly project their negativity onto others. If you are a positive person, you can expect to be targeted. That doesn’t mean stop being positive. It means you cannot let down your guard. Smile with your eyes and never flinch. It is easy to forget you are a warrior, especially when you are deep in the trenches with negative people.

5. Treat yourself every day
How do you reward yourself? Is it with a jog after work? Is it with a large mocha Frappuccino from Starbucks? If you are doing things you don’t want to do because of your job, it is especially important to do what you want to do, whenever you can. Having something to look forward to can be a definite game changer.

I hope you found this helpful. If you have questions or are in need of support please click here.

Dr. Perry

“We specialize in a solution-focused approach to psychotherapy, specifically treating depression, anxiety, relationship issues and narcissistic abuse.”
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43 responses to When You Hate Your Job

  1. Srishti says:

    I do not ‘hate’ my job because that term brings so much discouragement to evolve. But yes, I do wish to quit after dealing with few liabilities. especially now when I “find satisfaction in knowing I did my best”. I love your post as it gives a much needed push with a positive attitude. Thank you so much for that 🙂

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  2. yanti says:

    No work place is perfect, i am satisfied with doing my best and always develop my knowledge and my skills. Nice post 🙂

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  3. Rita says:

    I followed you only yesterday. Today you address the exact situation I am dealing with. I am constantly amazed by the universe’s willingness to intercede on my behalf.

    Thank you for these wise words ❤️. I need to add them to my processing.

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  4. thirtynwordy says:

    Loved this. Very valid points. I’m not currently in this position, but have been. Our outlook has a lot to do with the actuality of our job and it’s easy to let other things that may be going wrong or stressing us in life, have a negative effect on our work. It’s a vicious cycle really. Great advice.

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    • I am glad to hear you are no longer in this position. I totally agree our outlook influences the actuality of our job. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

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  5. Pink says:

    Good advice! Despite watching every season of “Parks & Rec” I didn’t learn to treat myself until grad school when a professor talked about rewarding yourself for your hard work. There have also been many times when I wanted to up and quit but you’re right that maintaining professionalism is important.

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  6. Amazing article! LOVE the ironman analogy! I will use that one for sure. “We tend to be happiest when we are trying to get better at something” is so true!
    Thank you!

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  7. I don’t loooove my job, but know it could be worse. I noticed that diving into my blog and doing something that I really like outside of work seem to make work feel less dumb and annoying. 🙂

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  8. sargondorsai says:

    I remember working retail. I remember the terrible terrible people I had to deal with on occasion. Then I remembered how many people I was able to help working customer service.

    Liked by 2 people

  9. Today I have a highly regarded day off and this post is extremely timely. Especially #4. I love how a followed blog can feel like a friend giving me some timely advice while I make morning tea. 🙂

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  10. Nadine says:

    I HATE my job with capital letters life is unfair, I want to quit so badly but our economy is bad and the unemployment rate are very high.
    I’m miserable in my 8 working hours, but the minute I set my foot outside the office I smile and start to enjoy my life, I refuse to let my job depression ruins my personal life

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  11. Jose Rubio says:

    Sometimes quiting a job makes life much harder. We do need to reorganize our thoughts while working so we do not make a mistake that will be regreded later on.

    Liked by 1 person

  12. GodGirl says:

    Excellent advice! So true that we often need to protect ourselves against negativity. Great thought about the treat after work too. Self-care is so important.

    Liked by 1 person

    • MakeItUltra™ says:

      Thank you! Indeed I believe negativity is highly toxic so best to try and minimize contact with it. Thank you for your comment and have a good day✨


  13. gogetme says:

    What if you do all 5 for a while but you still have a nagging feeling that it might not be worth the energy? I feel like I’ve been doing this for a while and now I just feel tired. Can you ever know when enough is enough?

    Liked by 1 person

    • MakeItUltra™ says:

      Hi! Sometimes enough really is enough. As long as we stay strategic rather than reactive then we are less likely to make a decision based entirely off emotion

      Liked by 1 person

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