By Dr. Perry, PhD
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“Sometimes adversity is what you need to face in order to become successful.” ~
1. Reflect on your progress
It always feels good to reflect on how far we have come. We can easily get caught up looking to the future only to base our happiness on finishing the next big project. Do we really want to wait until we have completed a goal to feel good about ourselves? Take a moment to reflect on the obstacles you have already accomplished. Each one of these achievements tells you one thing. You are a winner. You have won before and you will win again. Of course, we have our moments when things don’t go our way. That is just part of the process.
2. Review your goals
Sometimes the goal we initially set is not actually helpful in achieving the end result we have in mind. Most often, there are mini-goals that must be accomplished in order to reach the desired outcome. This is why it is important to regularly evaluate where we are in the process. If we are feeling stagnant and unsure about where to go next then it is time to make a list of the already accomplished mini-goals, the mini-goals that still need to be worked on and our end goal(s).
3. Remember you have control
Not only are we in control of the amount of effort spent on accomplishing a goal, but we are in control of how much energy we spend on taking care of ourselves. A Buddhist proverb says, “A good rest is half the work.” Sometimes for us to stay motivated we need to be realistic about our timeline. It is important to focus on the process of achieving the goal more so than on the end result. By focusing our attention on the task at hand we are less likely to become fixated on the future only to feel anxious about where we stand. Everything takes time. Slow and steady does it.
4. Keep it fun
Let’s face it, if it is not fun we probably won’t do it. The ability to transform a mundane situation into a fun and exciting experience is a skill that must be exercised daily. Finding meaning in something we are doing can spark our curiosity and interest. Keep an eye out for novelty at any given moment. What stands out to you? By focusing our attention on the details, we are more likely to see the vibrancy of our surroundings.
5. Reward yourself
Creating a reward system is a healthy way to avoid burning out. Sometimes the most difficult aspect of a reward system is following through and giving yourself the reward. We need to make sure to honor the promises we make to ourselves. Imagine there is a little boy or girl inside of you. He or she will work very hard hoping to receive the reward you promised. If you fail to honor your promises, don’t be surprised if next time he or she struggles to honor their promises too.
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