How to Heal Childhood Wounds


By Dr. Perry, PhD

I wanted to share with you a system that I use in my private practice. My mentor Dr. Judy Rosenberg developed this psycho-educational model for psychotherapy. The Mind Map™ is a very easy-to-use and powerful tool for illustrating how the wounds of childhood were delivered, embedded and manifested into present day. It illuminates for us exactly what to do about it.

The “Be the Cause” MIND MAP™ for Healing Human Disconnect identifies the original wound of the parent/child disconnect. At the heart of the Be the Cause System is the Mind Map™, which is designed to take you from the problem, through the process and to the solution. There are 9 Panels, organized into 3 rows from left to right and from top to bottom. Think of these panels as stages that you will travel through on your road to recovery.

The top row deals with Creation (the past), the middle row Destruction (the now), and the bottom row Reintegration and Unity (the future). Problems can be created, dismantled and reintegrated. Think of this process as a way to decode your past and recode your future.  By setting your intentions into effect, you can become the creator of the solutions to your problems.

The Mind Map™ System is a linear and easy approach to psychotherapy. As someone who utilizes this approach in psychotherapy, I find it effective in healing symptoms that stem from childhood wounds. The Mind Map is especially effective in healing symptoms of narcissistic abuse, neglect and trauma.

In the Mind Map™ System you are asked the following questions:

Panel 1: Wound
What was the initial wound that caused a disconnect with a parent?

Panel 2: Reaction
What was the reaction to that initial wound?

Panel 3: Encoding
What negative childhood beliefs did you learn from the initial wound? This is where negative core beliefs are discovered and explored.

Panel 4: Chaos
What chaos or suffering are you experiencing in your life at the present time?

Panel 5: Defense
What defense mechanisms do you presently use to cope with the chaos and suffering in your life?

Panel 6: Breakdown/Breakthrough
In what ways are your defense mechanisms breaking down and no longer effective?

Panel 7: Paradigm shift
In what way is your life shifting from an unhealthy paradigm shift to a new healthier paradigm?

Panel 8: Healing
In what way is your life beginning to heal?

Panel 9: Unity
In what areas of your life are you experiencing unity, integration and harmony?

Please note, this is not intended to be used without the guidance of a Mind Map™ Professional. This is simply an overview of the system.

I hope this was helpful. If you are in need of further support please click here.

Dr. Perry
“We specialize in a solution-focused approach to psychotherapy, specifically treating depression, anxiety, relationship issues and narcissistic abuse.”
Verified by Psychology Today
Office in Sherman Oaks, CA

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38 responses to How to Heal Childhood Wounds

  1. Tessa says:

    I can see this for a parent and I do have leftover feelings from my childhood, but what about other people, say for instance a spouse. I am divorced now and harbored bad feelings about the whole situation. I am finally, after 40 years coming to terms with him.

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    • MakeItUltra™ says:

      Hi Tessa, we would approach a scenario like this by seeking to identify how the wounds from your former spouse could possibly be a re-trauma as opposed to an original trauma. The original trauma of disconnect often stems from parenting. Of course, this is not always the case. It is not uncommon that we pick partners who are similar to at least one of our parental units. The system is intended to help us connect the dots and understand the blueprint. When we do this, we can adopt a more logical and linear approach to it all. A logical and linear approach helps us move from the amygdala (the emotional center) to our frontal lobe (where we can problem solve, make peace or accept and let go of past events). Hope this helps you to understand the model a little better. Wishing you well, Eric

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  2. Thank you. ❤ There are lovely insights in this blog on healing the places inside that hurt, and updating limiting beliefs underlying the issue. I find that learning how to love those places really makes a difference. And really nice to have your presence on my blog – thanks for visiting. ~Blessings, Debbie

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    • MakeItUltra™ says:

      Hi Bethany, yes. This system helps people who struggle with emotional reactivity (aka emotional high-jacking) by understanding how the wounds or trauma in childhood have led to symptoms of distress. One of the goals of the system is to help people function in their frontal lobe (solution focused) rather than in their amygdala (emotional center). Thank you for the comment Bethany! Let me know if you have any other questions. Best wishes.

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  3. Healing childhood wounds is the most difficult and ultimately the most rewarding. It took me over 2 years of counseling, well worth the time (and tears) invested. Things do still pop up occasionally but I can deal with them from a mental rather than an emotional place.

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  4. This is an amazing topic . I believe this is an excellent beginning to a part two of my recent post pertaining to a false masculinity and male relationships. This addresses how to fix our problems.

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