Written by Dr. Perry, PhD
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“Do what you feel in your heart to be right — for you’ll be criticized anyway. You’ll be damned if you do, and damned if you don’t.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt
I am not a thin-skinned individual who cannot accept criticism, but I do make a conscious effort to block all negativity from my blog. I want my blog to be a place where I can share educational, motivational, inspirational and uplifting posts. I was surprised when a recent quote about positivity, that I posted, generated many disagreeable comments. This made me ponder the question, is there such a thing as too much positivity?
I get my fair share of contrarians on the blog, but the response to this specific tag I made was different. Sadly, one person lashed out and accused me of trying to take credit for the quote. I can only guess what feelings they were displacing or projecting. I did not dignify their accusation with an answer as I was taught if you have nothing nice to say don’t say anything at all.
It is important that I point out again that my posts are meant to educate and are not a replacement for therapy. Therapy is not a one size fits all approach. A big part of therapy is the therapeutic alliance that is formed between you and your therapist. I receive a lot of questions from individuals about issues they are experiencing in their lives. Please note, for ethical reasons I am not able to answer your questions. I do not know the specifics or circumstances relating to the challenges you are facing and it would be unethical and unprofessional of me to try and answer in a paragraph. Therapy takes time and commitment and should only be engaged with a qualified mental health professional that you have selected.
There is one thing you should know about me. I am motivated by adversity and negativity. I get this from having a black belt in Taekwondo and training for the Olympics. It was grueling and in the end, I did not make the Olympic team as I had dreamed. This taught me that anything worth having takes hard work, a relentlessly positive attitude and the realization that the journey matters more than the result. I refuse to allow negativity to damper my spirit. This blog will continue to be my personal space where I share my passion for psychology and positivity.
Even though my blog is open to the public, it is not a public forum for you to air your negativity. My blog is not monetized and I receive no financial compensation for the time I spend writing and creating. I blog because I enjoy it and I respect the blogging community. Having said this, in every relationship, there must be healthy boundaries in order to maintain the connection. Therefore, I have a comments policy on my blog. I will continue to only let in positive comments that inspire others. I am not allowing the following comments or any others that I choose to be posted on my blog.
1. Comments by contrarians who are trying to “stir the pot” just to get a reaction.
2. Solicitous comments where it is apparent you did not read the post.
3. Comments asking me to follow back. This is not Instagram. Feel free to follow the blog, but because of my busy work schedule, I am not able to follow more than a few blogs. I try to read as much as I can on the blogosphere and will always “like” what I read.
4. Political and religious comments are not allowed. I respect all points of view equally, but this is not the platform to express these opinions.
5. I do not allow comments from individuals looking to solicit business from the readers of this blog. I believe if someone is interested in your product or services they will reach out to you.
Thank you for taking the time to read this post. I appreciate and value all of you who have been with me on this journey. I hope you continue to join me in making the blogging community a happy and positive one. In the end, I believe as many others do, you cannot please everyone. There is no such thing as too much positivity. In our current society, there appears to be a contagious wave of negativity and I urge all of you to resist the temptation to take part. I will continue to wear my badge of being “too positive” with pride.
A photo from the day I finished my PhD