Fair Fighting Rules for Relationships

By Dr. Perry, PhD “An eye for an eye will only make the world blind” ~Mahatma Gandhi Arguments and relationships go hand in hand like peanut butter and jelly. Unfortunately, arguments are not as sweet as jelly and don’t go over as smooth as peanut butter. When we argue with our loved ones, it is important to remember that it’s not necessary to deliver a knock out blow. Think of the argument as a heart to heart conversation and notRead more

4 Behaviors to Avoid In Your Relationship

By Dr. Perry, PhD Audio version | Click here “When she asked him whether it was true that love conquered all, as the songs said. ‘It is true’, he replied, ‘but you would do well not to believe it.” ~Gabriel Garcia Marquez We would all like to believe that when we fall in love it will be forever. The truth is, love is a complicated and fluctuating emotion. It is not a super hero power that will conquer all of life’sRead more

Losing Your Partner to Social Media

By Dr. Perry, PhD “Some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it is letting go.” ~Hermann Hesse 1. Relationships are being redefined as quantity is better The nature of a relationship is rapidly being redefined. It seems we are distancing ourselves further from true intimacy; substituting quantity and convenience over quality. Let’s face it, we value immediacy and struggle with intimacy. If we can make a post and get an immediate response, it will satisfy the innate need to feel relevant.Read more

Share Your Love Story

Hi Everyone, We originally posted this in honor of Valentine’s Day 2017. We received so many beautiful love stories that it would be a shame to delete them. We are going to permanently keep this post to continue spreading love and positivity. Love should be expressed year round not just on one day out of the year. Please continue to share your love stories in the comments section and help us create a memorial to love. http://www.MakeItUltraPsychology.com “We specialize inRead more

5 Signs of Codependency

By Dr. Perry, PhD “A lot of the time codependency looks like intense love, but “needing” another person often stems from fear, not love.” ~Jennifer Kass 1. You feel like you will die without the other person The first time I ever experienced what I would call true love, I began to think about my mortality more than ever. I would think about the fact that my time with my partner is not infinite. I would actually get sad thinking aboutRead more

How to Make the Perfect Apology

By Dr. Perry, PhD “No matter how hard the past, you can always begin again.” ~Buddha 1. Express your remorse Anytime I have ever received an apology, it has always helped to know the other person felt remorse about what happened. We intuitively scan the apologizer, looking for sincerity. If we believe they are sincere, we are more likely to forgive. But, we often will never forget. 2. Explain what happened It helps to know what exactly went wrong. This frees us from the dungeon of over-thinkingRead more

How to Help a Suffering Partner

By Dr. Perry, PhD “Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” ~Dalai Lama 1. Fight the urge to run away or shut down Let’s face it, it is in our nature to seek pleasure and avoid pain. Seeing a loved one suffer is one of the most heart wrenching experiences. If you feel like running away or giving up, you are not alone. But remember, it is not uncommonRead more